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Misc Romance
I would like to meet someone to spend some time with, playing pool married looking nsa Oroville or working out, seeing movies and cafe slumming. A little about me: I'm a Rational Inventor or Rational Mastermind (Keirsey Sorter) and ENTP or INTJ (Meyers Briggs), depending on my test taking mood; an Aquarius (Western astrology); a 6 Life Path wrapped in a 7 Personality (numerology); a gregarious introvert (psych); a quintessential Indigo (woo-woo); a closet Southerner (cultural); a high Explore and Execute (5 Dynamics); an and/toward person, rather than or/from (NLP); and I score equally across the visual-kinesthetic-auditory inputs (NLP). If you know what any of that means, it may tell you a lot; but I don´t care if you know what it means - it´s information, not a test! However, it might say something about our compatibility if you are not at all curious to Google it. At least, don´t write to tell me it´s a bunch of meaningless words if they are meaningless to you... I sometimes do like to say words more for the poetry of their sound than for their exact meaning, but those occasions are obvious and hopefully artful. I guess what it all means to me is that I've never not heard a black helicopter I wouldn't at least consider, and I'm using all my input channels to plan a benevolent dictatorship which involves the re-discovery of cold fusion through telepathic communication w/aliens - keeping it all buttoned up behind an enigmatic hand wave. I love to talk all night about all the ideas we've run into, but that does not mean that I subscribe to everything I've explored. Naturally curious, I'm easily entertained, but I prefer dynamic circumstances, particularly in environment. I perceive best through difference, acquiring the most depth through breadth, seeing patterns repeated in new context. Liminality is where I feel most at home, most fully me, so I travel a lot. I'm a holistic/systems thinker; seeing the whole picture requires a roundabout turn, like tracing the Earth's circumference... look, we started in Africa and wound up in Mexico! And similarly, trying to break it down into something completely linear distorts the big picture, like flat maps. Mischievous and playful by default, with a wicked sense of humor, I can go emo/goth in a heartbeat, too. However, I have a high emotional intelligence with consistent moods, even when I'm experiencing a lot of upheaval. I also fight fair: I don't do personal or passive-aggressive attacks and if I really think I might lose it, I'll give you fair warning. If you really get a thrill from drama, I will feel flat to you... and if you pull that out of me, I now know that's a red flag which speaks to an unhealthy dynamic I need to exit from, immediately. I have a deep code of integrity, and although that may not conform strictly with the law or the 10 commandments, it does mean that if you are a friend (or more), I'll never lie to you and I will always come and pick you up if you are stranded on the side of the road. I'm very useful, in general - with home improvement projects, helping you plant a permaculture garden, providing supplement recommendations, writing a business plan for that idea you've been dreaming about. As a result of my experience based life, there are few things I don't know something about, and some things I know a lot about. I'm a do-er and a bridge: one of my passions is in helping others realize theirs. I certainly have my own list of passions, which is why I'm normally doing 20 things at once, and I'm excited when there are opportunities for collaboration. Regarding romance, I am open to "dating" so long as that does not describe a constraint, but a reasonable starting point for exploration. Trustworthiness, accountability and a shared sense of the obvious are things that I haven't found enough of: I offer them in spades and prioritize their requirement. Ultimately, I am looking for a "divine union" - not referring to complete and unhealthy enmeshment, but certainly mutual surrender: I want only to open doors, ever deeper, so that I can be known. I believe that we can only be loved where we allow ourselves to be seen, to show up, and I don't have a story about the "inevitable fall" against which I must stash away little secret boxes of myself to keep safe whole. Breszny writes, "If you weave your destiny together with another's, s/he should catalyze your sleeping potentials, sharpen your perceptions, boost both your emotional and analytical intelligence. Your relationship becomes a crucible in which you deepen your understanding of the way the world works." Yay, crucible! I'm pretty clear that for myself this kind of depth happens through the monogamy model. I'm told that I'm attractive, with a certain sex appeal that doesn't always translate into pictures. An actually "fit" person (as opposed to euphemistiy slender) who is very knowledgeable about nutrition, fitness and overall health, I am a former athlete who is very comfortable in/with my body; regardless of my fitness, my weight fluctuates and it will be important that you are comfortable with a range, since I regard physical expression/connection to be intrinsic to a happy relationship. For dating, I have no biases with regard to race or other statistics; on paper, I have some preferred tastes, but in person, there is no real accounting for attraction and so I don't rule anything out before sharing space with someone - even then, I'm willing to spend some time before making a decision, as I have had attraction grow and surprise me. I have found that at least some shared spiritual beliefs are better than none, though what that means can be quite broad, given that mine are pretty inclusive and can be qualified as quantum science or bona fide consciousness studies, if it makes you feel better: I do run toward the practical woo-woo - a la "all models are wrong, but some are useful" - so if you have very strict exclusionary beliefs, I'm likely to be more of a problem for you than vice versa, because I have a nuanced understanding which creates more similarity than difference. I am open to and even interested in someone who has children, so long as you do not regard them as a sequestered part of your internal life which I, for some reason, should have no interest in: I have discovered that how people treat their children tells me a lot about them...and how I am integrated, or not, tells me a lot about us. I do not anticipate wanting children of my own loins, however, so if that's a goal of yours, please take my self-awareness on this very seriously. If you are divorced, please be divorced for at least a year - actually divorced, not just separated or thinking about it. It's easy to get caught up in someone's excitement about all the new possibilities, and I have learned the hard way that there is an emotional process people must go through no matter how long in coming it was...it's a thing that you don't know what you don't know, so no one is at fault, exactly, but the figuring it out piece is not something other hearts should really be involved in. First Date? Something light, cool and which allows me to have some make-up on - I'm a ready to rumble kind, with painted lips and toes, but scraped knees and bruises from God knows what project, but let's save the hiking or biking for a later time, when neither of us mind so much if my face gets really hot and red (I'm told it's a surplus of qi). And I do confess that while I really enjoy hiking, I really do *not* enjoy camping, so if your life revolves around that, either know in advance that we won't share it or decide that you must have someone who wants to. I like to play pool, but I'm usually not very good. I enjoy cultural stuff, such as art or low-key live music. You know, I'm an aging bohemian/hipster, so I still like the idea of a cafe revolution and Bukowski bars, even though I don't drink very much...yes, also making me a cheap date. You will score points if you are bold enough to take me to a party or out with friends, or join me in same. I think seeing how one is around others (and whom the others are) offers important insight. And yes, send a picture - it's not so much about the look as it is about the anti-anonymity...the need to hide usually doesn't bode well.
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